“We know better by now.” A quick Google search would correct that misconception right away. Dating, romance and sex culture largely avoids disability. It’s not just in our bars, clubs, entertainment, social media, churches and other public spaces Most are directed at people who have disabilities, belittling and minimizing our needs and desires, asking us to compromise and sell themselves short of healthy love and sex. Few, if any, are directed at people looking to date or already dating someone with a disability. That’s a problem the other 80 percent of Americans should probably care about. People who have disabilities, whether visible or invisible, are datable.
United Spinal’s Disability Etiquette Publication Offers Tips On Interacting With People With Disabilities To download any of our publications free of charge, go to: You can also purchase print copies at: Introduction The National Organization on Disability (NOD) reports that more than 54 million Americans have a disability. This booklet is for anyone—with or without a disability—who wants to interact more effectively with people with disabilities.
of 1990was conceived with the goal of integrating people with disabilities into all aspects of life, particularly the workplace and the marketplace. Sensitivity toward people with disabilities is not only in the spirit of the ADA, it makes good business sense.
It can help you expand your practice, better serve your customers or develop your audience. When supervisors and co-workers use disability etiquette, employees with disabilities feel more comfortable and work more productively. Practicing disability etiquette is an easy way to make people with disabilities feel welcome .You don’t have to feel awkward when dealing with a person who has a disability. This booklet provides some basic tips for you to follow. And if you are ever unsure how to interact with a person who has a disability, just ask!
The Basics Ask before you help Just because someone has a disability, don’t assume she needs help .* If the setting is accessible, people with disabilities can usually get around fine. Adults with disabilities want to be treated as independent people. Offer assistance only if the person appears to need it. A person with a disability will oftentimes communicate when she needs help.
And if she does want help, ask how before you act . Be sensitive about physical contact Some people with disabilities depend on their arms for balance. Grabbing them, even if your intention is to assist, could knock them off balance .Avoid patting a person on the head or touching his People with disabilities consider part of their personal space .* Note: We want you to think of people who have disabilities as individuals—your friends, your co-workers, your neighbors—so rather than use the amorphous group term “they” for people with disabilities, we use the pronouns “he” or “she” throughout this booklet .
Think before you speak Always speak directly to the person with a disability, not to his companion, aide or sign language interpreter. Making small talk with a person who has a disability is great; just talk to him as you would with anyone else.
Respect his privacy. If you ask about his disability, he may feel like you are treating him as a disability, not as a human being. However, many people with disabilities are comfortable with questions about their disability after getting to know someone. A simple “I don’t feel comfortable sharing that” by the person with a disability can set the tone if it is not something that he/she is willing to share .
Don’t make asumptions People with disabilities are the best judge of what they can or cannot do. Don’t make decisions for them about participating in any activity. Depending on the situation, it could be a violation of the to exclude people because of a presumption about their limitations . Respond graciously to requests When people who have disabilities ask for an accommodation at your business, it is not a complaint.
It shows they feel comfortable enough in your establishment to ask for what they need. And if they get a positive response, they will probably come back again and tell their friends about the good service they received.
Terminology Tips Put the person first. Say “person with a disability” rather than “disabled person.” Say “people with disabilities” rather than “the disabled.” For specific disabilities, saying “person with Tourette syndrome” or “person who has cerebral palsy” is usually a safe bet. Still, individuals do have their own preferences.
If you are not sure what words to use, ask.Avoid outdated terms like “handicapped”, “crippled”, or “retarded.”Be aware that many people with disabilities dislike jargony, euphemistic terms like “physically challenged” and “differently abled.” Say “person who uses a wheelchair” rather than “confined to a wheelchair” or “wheelchair bound.” The wheelchair is what enables the person to get around and participate in society; it’s liberating, not confining.With any disability, avoid negative, disempowering words, like “victim” or “sufferer.” Say “person with AIDS” instead of “AIDS victim” or “person who suffers from AIDS.”It’s okay to use idiomatic expressions when talking to people with disabilities.
For example, saying, “It was good to see you,” and “See you later,” to a person who is blind is completely acceptable; they use these expressions themselves all the time .Many people who are Deaf communicate with sign language and consider themselves to be members of a cultural and linguistic minority group. They refer to themselves as Deaf with a capital “D,” and may be offended by the term “hearing impaired.” Others may not object to the term, but in general it is safest to refer to people who have hearing loss but who communicate in spoken language as “hard of hearing” and to people with profound hearing losses as Deaf or deaf.
People Who Use Wheelchairs or Other Mobility Devices People who use wheelchairs have different disabilities and varying abilities. Some can use their arms and hands. Some can get out of their wheelchairs and even walk for short distances .People who use wheelchairs are individuals, not equipment.
Don’t lean over someone who uses a wheelchair to shake another person’s hand or ask a wheelchair user to hold coats.
Setting your drink on the desktop attached to someone’s wheelchair is a definite no-no. • Don’t push or touch a person’s wheelchair; it’s part of her personal space. If you help someone down a curb without waiting for instructions, you may dump her out of the chair. You may detach the chair’s parts if you lift it by the handles or the footrest. • Keep the ramps and doors to your building unlocked and unblocked.
Under the ADA, displays should not be in front of entrances, wastebaskets should not be in the middle of aisles, and boxes should not be stored on ramps. • Be aware of a person’s reach limits. Place as many items as possible within their grasp. And make sure that there is a clear path of travel to shelves and display racks.
When talking to a person using a wheelchair, grab your own chair and sit at her level. If that’s not possible, stand at a slight distance, so that she isn’t straining her neck to make eye contact with you.
• If the service counter at your place of business is too high for a person using a wheelchair to see over, step around it to provide service. Have a clipboard handy if filling in forms or providing signatures is expected.
A business may also want to make sure employees are prepared to angle down or detach a key pad so a person using a wheelchair can sign their electronic signature after making a credit card purchase. • If your building has different routes through it, be sure that signs direct people to the accessible routes around the facility.
People who use canes or crutches also need to know the easiest way to get around a place, but stairs may be easier for them than a ramp. Ensure that security guards and receptionists can answer questions about the most accessible way around the building and grounds, including the location of elevators.
• People who use canes or crutches need their arms to balance themselves, so never grab them. People who have limited mobility may lean on a door for support as they open it. Pushing the door open from behind or unexpectedly opening the door may cause them to fall. Even pulling out or pushing in a chair may present a problem. Always ask before offering help. • If you offer a seat to a person who has limited mobility, keep in mind that chairs with arms or with higher seats are easier for some people to use.
• Falls are a big problem for people who have limited mobility. Be sure to set out adequate warning signs after washing floors. Also put out mats on rainy or snowy days to keep the floors as dry as possible. (Make sure they don’t bunch up and make the floor impassable.) • People who do not have a visible disability may have needs related to their mobility. For example, a person with a respiratory or heart condition may have trouble walking long distances or walking quickly.
Be sure that your museum, hotel or department store has ample benches for people to sit and rest on. • Some people have limited use of their hands, wrists or arms.
Be prepared to offer assistance with reaching, grasping or lifting objects, opening doors and display cases, and operating vending machines and other equipment. People Who Are Blind People who are blind know how to orient themselves and get around on the street.
They are competent to travel unassisted, though they may use a cane or a guide dog. A person may have a visual disability that is not obvious. Be prepared to offer assistance—for example in reading—when asked. • u Identify yourself before you make physical contact with a person who is blind. Tell him your name and your role if it’s appropriate, such as security guard, usher, case worker, receptionist or fellow student.
And be sure to introduce him to others who are in the group, so that he’s not excluded. • If a new customer or employee is blind or has low vision, offer him a tour of your facility. • If you have changed your facility (i.e., rearranged the furniture) notify your customers who are blind of the changes. • People who are blind may need their arms for balance, so offer your arm—don’t take his—if he needs to be guided.
(It is however appropriate to guide a blind person’s hand to a banister or the back of a chair to help direct him to a stairway or a seat.) • If the person has a guide dog, walk on the side opposite the dog. As you are walking, describe the setting, noting any obstacles, such as stairs (‘up’ or ‘down’) or a big crack in the sidewalk. Other hazards include: revolving doors, half-opened filing cabinets or doors, and objects protruding from the wall at head level such as hanging plants or lamps.
If you are going to give a warning, be specific. Hollering “Look out!” does not tell the person if he should stop, run, duck or jump. • If you are giving directions, give specific, non-visual information. Rather than say, “Go to your right when you reach the office supplies,” which assumes the person knows where the office supplies are, say, “Walk forward to the end of this aisle and make a full right.” • If you need to leave a person who is blind, inform him you are leaving and ask if he needs anything before you leave.
• Don’t touch the person’s cane or guide dog. The dog is working and needs to concentrate. The cane is part of the individual’s personal space.
If the person puts the cane down, don’t move it. Let him know if it’s in the way. • Offer to read written information—such as the menu, merchandise labels or bank statements—to customers who are blind. Count out change so that they know which bills are which.
• If you serve food to a person who is blind, let him know where it is on the plate according to a clock orientation (12 o’clock is furthest from them, 6 o’clock is nearest). Remove garnishes and anything that is not edible from the plate. Some patrons may ask you to cut their food; this can be done in the restaurant’s kitchen before the meal is served. People With Low Vision A person who has low vision may need written material in large print.
A clear font with appropriate spacing is just as important as the type size. Labels and signs should be clearly lettered in contrasting colors. It is easiest for most people with low vision to read bold white letters on black background. Avoid using all uppercase letters because it is more difficult for people with low vision to distinguish the end of a sentence. • Good lighting is important, but it shouldn’t be too bright.
In fact, very shiny paper or walls can produce a glare that disturbs people’s eyes. • Keep walkways clear of obstructions. If people with low vision regularly use your facility as customers or employees, inform them about anyphysical changes, such as rearranged furniture, equipment or other items that have been moved. People Who Are Deaf or Have a Hearing Loss American sign language (ASL) is an entirely different language from English, with a syntax all its own. Speech reading (lip reading) is difficult for people who are Deaf if their first language is ASL because the majority of sounds in English are formed inside the mouth, and it’s hard to speech read a second language .People who have a hearing loss, however, communicate in English.
They use some hearing, but may rely on amplification and/or seeing the speaker’s lips to communicate effectively .There is a range of communication preferences and styles among people with hearing loss that cannot be explained in this brief space. It is helpful to note that the majority of people who incurred a hearing loss as adults do not communicate with sign language, do use English, and may be candidates for writing and assistive listening devices to help improve communication.
People with cochlear implants, like other people with hearing loss, will usually inform you what works best for them. • u When the exchange of information is complex (e.g., during a job interview or doctor’s visit or when reporting a crime) the most effective way to communicate with a native signer is through a qualified sign language interpreter.
For a simple interaction (e.g., ordering in a restaurant or registering for a hotel room) writing back and forth is usually okay. • Follow the person’s cues to find out if she prefers sign language, gesturing, writing or speaking. If you have trouble understanding the speech of a person who is deaf or hard of hearing, let her know. • When using a sign language interpreter, look directly at the person who is deaf, and maintain eye contact to be polite.
Talk directly to the person (‘What would you like?’), rather than to the interpreter (‘Ask her what she’d like.’). • People who are deaf need to be included in the decision-making process for issues that affect them; don’t decide for them. • Before speaking to a person who is deaf or has a loss of hearing, make sure that you get her attention. Depending on the situation, you can extend your arm and wave your hand, tap her on the shoulder or flicker the lights.
• Rephrase, rather than repeat, sentences that the person does not understand. • When talking, face the person. A quiet, well-lit room is most conducive to effective communication. If you are in front of the light source (e.g., a window) with your back to it, the glare may obscure your face and make it difficult for the person who is hard of hearing to speech read.
• Speak clearly. Most people who have a hearing loss count on watching people’s lips as they speak to help them understand. Avoid chewing gum, smoking or obscuring your mouth with your hand while speaking. • There is no need to shout. If the person uses a hearing aid, it will be calibrated to normal voice levels; your shout will just distort the words. • People who are deaf (and some who have a hearing loss or speech disabilities) make and receive telephone calls with the assistance of various technologies including a TTY (short for teletypewriter) or a Video Relay Service (VRS).
VRS enables a person who is deaf or has a hearing loss to make and receive telephone calls through a communications assistant who is a qualified American Sign Language Interpreter. For many people who are deaf or have a hearing loss, VRS is closer to “functionally equivalent” telephone services than any other form of relay service. For American Sign Language users, VRS conversations flow more smoothly, naturally, and faster than communicating by typing.
• When a TTY user calls a business that does not have a TTY, she places the call through her state’s relay service. Likewise, a business that does not have a TTY can reach a customer who is a TTY user through the relay service.
If you receive a relay call, the operator will identify it as such. Please do not hang up; this is the way that people who are deaf are able to place an order at your pizza parlor, call your store to find out what hours you are open, or make a reservation at your restaurant.
People With Speech Disabilities A person who has had a stroke, is deaf, uses a voice prosthesis or has a stammer or other type of speech disability may be difficult to understand. • Give the person your full attention. Don’t interrupt or finish the person’s sentences. If you have trouble understanding, don’t nod. Just ask him to repeat.
In most cases the person won’t mind and will appreciate your effort to hear what he has to say. • If you are not sure whether you have understood, you can repeat for verification.
• If, after trying, you still cannot understand the person, ask him to write it down or to suggest another way of facilitating communication. • A quiet environment makes communication easier. • Don’t tease or laugh at a person with a speech disability. The ability to communicate effectively and to be taken seriously is important to all of us. Persons of Short Stature There are 200 diagnosed types of growth-related disorders that can cause dwarfism and that result in the person being 4 feet 10 inches or less in height.
For an adult, being treated as cute and childlike can be a tough obstacle. • Be aware of having necessary items within the person’s reach to the maximum extent possible. • Be aware that persons of short stature count on being able to use equipment that is at their height. Be sensitive about not using lower telephones, bank counters and urinals if they are in limited supply. • As with people who have other disabilities, never pet or kiss a person of short stature on the head.
• Communication can be easier when people are at the same level. Persons of short stature have different preferences. You might kneel to be at the person’s level; stand back so you can make eye contact without the person straining her neck (this can be hard to do in a crowded room); or sit in a chair. Act natural and follow the person’s cues. People With Cerebral Palsy As a result of injury to the central nervous system, people with cerebral palsy (CP) have difficulty controlling their muscles.
• Many people with CP have slurred speech and involuntary body movements. Your impulse may be to discount what they have to say, based on their appearance. Monitor your responses and interact with the person as you would with anyone else. • A person who may appear to be drunk, sick or have a medical emergency might in fact have CP or another disability.
Get the facts before acting on your first impression, whether the situation is business, social or law enforcement. People With Tourette Syndrome People with tourette syndrome may make vocalizations or gestures such as tics that they cannot control.
A small percentage of people with Tourette syndrome involuntarily say ethnic slurs or obscene words. An employee or other person with Tourette syndrome will benefit from the understanding and acceptance of co-workers and others.
• If a person with Tourette makes vocalizations during a conversation, simply wait for her to finish, and then calmly continue. • The more the person tries to contain these urges, the more the urges build up. It may be helpful for a person with Tourette to have the option to leave the meeting or conversation temporarily to release the build-up in a private place. People Who Look Different A different issue confronts people who may not be limited in their life activities, but who are treated as if they have a disability because of their appearance.
People with facial differences, such as cleft lip or palate, cranio-facial disfigurement, or a skin condition; people who are above or below the average height or weight; people who may display visible effects of medication, such as a tremor—in short, people who look different—have the frequent experience of finding people staring at them, looking away or looking through them as if they are invisible.
• Everyone needs to have a positive self-image to be a fully participating member of society. Be sure that you don’t contribute to stigmatizing people who look different. • If the situation is appropriate, strike up a conversation and include the person in whatever is going on. People With Hidden Disabilities Not all disabilities are apparent. A person may make a request or act in a way that seems strange to you. That request or behavior may be disability-related .For example, you may give seemingly simple verbal directions to someone, but the person asks you to write the information down.
He may have a learning disability that makes written communication easier for him. Or a person may ask to sit, rather than stand, in line. This person may be fatigued from a condition such as cancer, or may be feeling the effects of medication .Even though these disabilities are hidden, they are real. Please respect the person’s needs and requests whenever possible.
People With Epilepsy or Seizure Disorders Epilepsy is a neurological condition characterized by seizures that happen when the electrical system of the brain malfunctions. The seizures may be convulsive, or the person may appear to be in a trance. During complex partial seizures, the person may walk or make other movements while he is, in effect, unconscious. • If a person has a seizure, you cannot do anything to stop it.
If he has fallen, be sure his head is protected and wait for the seizure to end. • When a seizure has ended, the person may feel disoriented and embarrassed. Try to ensure that he has privacy to collect himself. • Be aware that beepers and strobe lights can trigger seizures in some people. People With Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS) and Respiratory Disabilities People with MCS and respiratory disabilities such as asthma or emphysema react to toxins in the air.
Stale air, fumes from cleaning products, perfume, carpeting, air freshener or even the fumes from magic markers can trigger a severe reaction.
• Try to avoid spray-cleaning tables, windows or other surfaces while people are in your place of business. If you must use a spray product, spray or pour it closely into the cloth, not into the air. Use less-toxic products when possible. Request that staff that have contact with the public go easy on fragranced body-care products like cologne, hair spray, hand lotion, and after-shave.
• Maintaining good ventilation and indoor air quality will not only benefit your customers who have MCS and respiratory disabilities, it will also help you and all of your employees stay healthier and more alert.
• Second-hand smoke can be particularly harmful to people with MCS or respiratory disabilities. Follow and enforce no-smoking regulations, including in restrooms and stairwells. Discourage smokers from congregating at the entrance to your business. If appropriate, designate a separate smoking area where the door is kept closed and the air ventilates to the outside. People With HIV & AIDS People with human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) or Autoimmune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) have impaired immune systems, so their bodies have trouble fighting off infections.
• You can’t catch HIV from casual contact such as shaking hands, so don’t be afraid of touching or being touched by a person with AIDS. • A person with HIV or AIDS, however, is at significant risk of picking up an airborne infection. Be conscious of not putting someone else at risk. If you have a respiratory infection or any other easily transmittable illness, be considerate of all your customers and employees and stay home, if possible.
• Many people with AIDS feel stigmatized. By simply greeting or shaking the person’s hand, you are letting him know that he is accepted.
It will mean a lot to him. A word about confidentiality :You may really care or you may just be curious about a person with a disability who is in crisis, suddenly ill, or misses work for unexplained reasons. In spite of your concern, please respect the privacy of a person with a disability.
Allow him to discuss his situation if and when he feels comfortable doing so. People with Psychiatric Disabilities or Mental Illness People with psychiatiatric disabilities may at times have difficulty coping with the tasks and interactions of daily life. Their disorder may interfere with their ability to feel, think or relate to others. Most people with psychiatric disabilities are not violent. One of the main obstacles they face is the attitudes that people have about them.
Because it is a hidden disability, chances are you will not even realize that the person has a mental health condition. • Stress can affect the person’s ability to function. Try to keep the pressure of the situation to a minimum. • People who have psychiatric disabilities have varying personalities and different ways of coping with their disability. Some may have trouble picking up on social cues; others may be supersensitive.
One person may be very high energy, while someone else may appear sluggish. Treat each person as an individual. Ask what will make him most comfortable and respect his needs to the maximum extent possible. • In a crisis, stay calm and be supportive as you would with anyone. Ask how you can help, and find out if there is a support person who can be sent for.
If appropriate, you might ask if the person has medication that he needs to take. People With Developmental Disabilities People with developmentatal disabilities learn slowly.
They have a hard time using what they have learned and applying it from one setting or situation to another. • Speak to the person in clear sentences, using simple words and concrete—rather than abstract—concepts. Help her understand a complex idea by breaking it down into smaller parts. • Don’t use baby talk or talk down to people who have developmental disabilities. Gauge the pace, complexity, and vocabulary of your speech according to theirs. • Remember that the person is an adult and, unless you are informed otherwise, can make her own decisions.
• People with developmental disabilities may be anxious to please. During an interview, the person may tell you what she thinks you want to hear. In certain situations, such as law enforcement or a doctor’s examination, it can have grave consequences if your interview technique is not effective. Questions should be phrased in a neutral way to elicit accurate information. Verify responses by repeating each question in a different way. • It can be difficult for people with developmental disabilities to make quick decisions.
Be patient and allow the person to take their time. • Clear signage with pictograms can help a person who has developmental disabilities to find her way around a facility. • People with developmental disabilities often rely on routine and on the familiar to manage work and daily living. Be aware that a change in the environment or in a routine may require some attention and a period of adjustment. People with Learning Disabilities Learning disabilities are lifelong disorders that interfere with a person’s ability to receive, express or process information.
Although they have certain limitations, most people with learning disabilities have average or above-average intelligence. You may not realize that the person has a learning disability because he functions so well. Or you may be confused about why such a high-functioning person has problems in one aspect of his work. • People with dyslexia or other reading disabilities have trouble reading written information.
Give them verbal explanations and allow extra time for reading. • Don’t be surprised if you tell someone very simple instructions and he requests that you write them down. Because spoken information gets “scrambled” as he listens, a person who has a learning disability such as auditory processing disorder may need information demonstrated or in writing. • Ask the person how you can best relay information. Be direct in your communication.
A person with a learning disability may have trouble grasping subtleties. • It may be easier for the person to function in a quiet environment without distractions, such as a radio playing, people moving around or loudly patterned curtains. People with Traumatic (or Acquired) Brain Injury People with traumatic brain injury have had damage to the brain usually as the result of trauma, such as an accident or stroke.
• Some of the factors that affect people with learning disabilities also apply to people with traumatic brain injury. People with brain injury may have a loss of muscle control or mobility that is not obvious. For example, a person may not be able to sign her name, even though she can move her hand. • A person with a brain injury may have poor impulse control. The person may make inappropriate comments and may not understand social cues or “get” indications that she has offended someone.
In her frustration to understand, or to get her own ideas across, she may seem pushy. All of these behaviors arise as a result of the injury. • A person with a brain injury may be unable to follow directions due to poor short-term memory or poor directional orientation.
She may ask to be accompanied, or she may use a guide dog for orientation, although she does not appear to be mobility impaired. • If you are not sure that the person understands you, ask if she would like you to write down what you were saying. • The person may have trouble concentrating or organizing her thoughts, especially in an over-stimulating environment, like a crowded movie theater or transportation terminal.
Be patient. You might suggest going somewhere with fewer distractions. People Who Use Service Animals Some people who are Deaf, blind or have low vision, or who have traumatic brain injury, seizure disorder, or a range of other disabilities may use a service animal to assist them with daily living.
• While you may inquire whether an animal is a service animal, the person may not have information identifying it as such. This means that in general, you will need to modify a “no animals” policy to allow the person to enter with her service animal.
Barring a direct threat to health and safety, this requirement of the ADA is generally thought to take precedence over any health codes, such as those for restaurants, and personal preferences, such as those of taxi drivers, prohibiting pets. • Service animals are generally highly trained and well behaved.
You may ask the person to remove the animal if she does not have the animal under her control. Do not touch the service animal without permission. The animal may be adorable, but it is on the job. Emergency Evacuation Procedures for People With Disabilities People with disabilities must be considered in any facility’s evacuation plan. • Compile a voluntary list of people with disabilities who are regulars at your facility, such as employees, students or residents.
While you are compiling this list, let people know that even though they may not consider themselves of having a disability, they should be included if they may need help during an emergency.
For example, this might apply to someone whose asthma may be triggered by stress or smoke. Keep the list updated to include people who are living with temporary disabilities, such as a pregnant woman or someone with a broken leg.
• Interview each individual on the list to plan the most effective way to assist them in case of an emergency. For example, a person with a cognitive disability may get confused and need assistance in following directions.
• Also develop a plan, including a voluntary sign-in, for an emergency that may affect people who are not attached to the facility, such as customers, theatergoers, patients or other members of the public. • Practice the evacuation procedures and keep your plans up to date. Conflict Management Sometimes conflicts arise between people with disabilities and the places they visit for work, recreation, health care or education. These conflicts are usually the result of misunderstanding or a lack of information.
Sometimes conflicts develop between people with disabilities who have conflicting needs. For example, a person who has a hearing loss cannot hear the proceedings with the window open, but a person with Multiple Chemical Sensitivity needs the window open for fresh air; someone who uses a service dog may run into a conflict with a person who has an anxiety disorder and an extreme fear of dogs .All of these situations call for flexibility, patience, creativity, and open communication—a willingness to listen to the other guy’s perspective and to learn .Sometimes good faith efforts are not enough, and parties have difficulty working out their differences.
In these cases, consider using the services of a skilled mediator. A Final Word People with disabilities are individuals with families, jobs, hobbies, likes and dislikes, and problems and joys. While the disability is an integral part of who they are, it alone does not define them. Don’t make them into disability heroes or victims.
Treat them as individuals. Signage Note accessibility of your business or program by using the symbols below in advertising, on flyers, and as signage at the location of the service. Be sure to use the verbal description, along with the symbol. As signage, enlarge the symbol and place it where it will be most visible. WHELCHAIR ACCESS Assistive listening for people who have a hearing loss SIGN-LANGUAGE INTERPRETER TTY/TDD Save Save
best dating someone with mental disability list of secondary conditions - Caring for someone with mental illness
It’s not BAD. Just different. We’ve all heard (or have) horror stories about dating people who turned out a little “crazy.” Maybe she moved from the “like” stage to the obsession stage too quickly, or maybe he reacted by burning your stuff when you ended things. But when it comes to talking about potential partners, most people don’t mention how to approach dating someone with a mental illness.
This is something that we should definitely be talking about. For one thing, it is very likely that you will at least go on a date with someone who is suffering or has suffered from mental health problems. After all, 1 in 10 people throughout the world will fall into this category in their lifetime, and the more we pretend we don’t know someone in this group, the more we build on the surrounding it.
Here are some things to think about when it comes to getting into a relationship with someone with , , , or similar mental health conditions: 1. Having a Mental Illness Doesn’t Mean She’s Unstable As mentioned above, it is likely that you have already encountered someone with mental health problems in your dating life.
While the first people who come to mind might be those that went to the extreme, there’s a good chance that the person you’re thinking of wasn’t someone who fit into this category. Someone with mental illness, whether she’s sought out formal treatment or knows exactly what her condition is, has developed ways of coping so that she can live as normal a life as possible.
It is just as likely that the guy who wouldn’t stop talking about himself suffers from anxiety issues as the guy who asked to try on your shoes at the end of the date. If someone you’re dating confides in you about dealing with a mental illness, listen to what they have to say without assuming that you know what they are dealing with and how this has altered their life. 2. He Needs an Open Line of Communication This is something that holds true no matter what type of relationship you are in, but it’s definitely one of the keys to making things work when mental health problems play a role in your relationship.
In order for maintain a line of open communication, your partner needs to know that you are okay talking about his mental health without judgment or assumption. One good thing that you can do is have a weekly check-in with your partner.
This gives you both a chance to bring up feelings and issues that you might be having that could affect your relationship. The more open with your feelings, the more he will feel that they can share with you. 3. It’s Not Your Job to “Fix” Her Watching someone you love suffer from anything — whether it be physical pain or mental or emotional turmoil — is one of the most heartbreaking and difficult things you can do. It’s something that can definitely cause tension, confusion and anxiety when one party in a relationship is suffering from mental health issues.
One thing that you need to remember is that while it is great to offer support to your partner when she’s going through a difficult time, finding the solutions that she needs to live the happiest and healthiest life possible is up to her.
While you can listen, cheer her up and to help her cope, she needs to discover which treatments work best for her, and needs to add those solutions into her daily life. Keep in mind that there are all sorts of different stages that people go through when dealing with mental health problems and that you can’t force your partner out of one stage and into the next.
You just need to accept them at whatever stage they are currently in with honesty and compassion. This doesn’t mean that you can’t suggest they make a change or get help, but you need to be prepared for the possibility that they might not follow your advice. 4. He Has His Own Version of “Normal” Going off of the same idea, there are likely some quirks and elements of their life that you are going to need to adapt to if you’re going to make the relationship work — just like you would in any other relationship.
For example, if you’re dating someone who suffers from , it is not very likely that you will be spending your weekends out at crowded bars and loud parties. When you’re deciding whether or not this person is right for you, you need to approach it just like you would with any other potential relationship. We all have those things about us that are not going to change and that our perfect partner will either appreciate or will learn to live with and those who suffer from mental illness are no different.
If you’re not someone who can deal with his everyday habits or schedule, he’s likely not the right person for you. 5. The Standard Relationship Rules STILL Apply While some things are different when you’re dating someone with mental health issues, the core of your relationship and how you feel when you’re with her shouldn’t be any different from when you date anyone else.
After all, she’s just another person. You should feel like her equal and that there is a good balance of give and take in the relationship. You should also feel that she treats you well in return and gives you the attention you deserve.
There will always be times when one person in the relationship is more vulnerable and needs additional support. Dealing with constant changes is one of the keys to building a strong and lasting relationship. Don’t let someone make their mental health issues an excuse for always taking and never giving. Just because they are dealing with something, doesn’t give them the right to be a jerk. In today’s world, we need to erase the stigma surrounding mental health and we need to realize that those suffering are the same as any other person — amazing people who are capable of great things.
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