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I have a question, wha is the difference between: * dating someone. * going out with someone. * and hanging out with someone. I wan to know the meaning of these phrases in Australia. I understand dating is with the purpose of a realtionship going out is without a purpose hanging out is without a purpose. Thank you! You asked particularly about the use of these phrases in Australia. Dating is a word I don't tend to use. For my generation, it is an American word which we wouldn't use.
Personally, I've never been on a "date" in my life, although I've been in several relationships, so perhaps that's another reason why I would not use the word. I can't speak for younger generations of Australians; it's quite possible that the idea of "dating" has become more popular. My understanding of the meaning of the word is somewhat hazy, but I'll have a shot at trying to explain it.
If person X said they were dating person Y, I'd think that they were going on dates together, for example going out to dinner, to movies or similar, in order to get to know each other and see whether they want to commit to a more serious relationship.
As to "going out with", you'd think that that would be, if anything, more casual, but, in the language of my generation at least, saying you are going out with someone means that you are in a more or less permanent relationship with them. They are your girlfriend/boyfriend. NB - this depends on context: if you said "I'm going out with Dave on Saturday", that would simply mean that you are going somewhere with Dave on Saturday, not that you are in a relationship with Dave.
If you just said "I'm going out with Dave", that would mean you are in a relationship with Dave. "Hanging out" has no implication at all of a romantic relationship, prospective or actual. You hang out with a friend, which means spending time with them.
I hope that all makes sense!
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When I am in a relationship (using that term very loosely) that has progressed beyond a third or fourth date, but hasn't been declared "exclusive," I have no idea what to tell my friends I'm doing when I plan on hanging out with said person on a given night. "I'm going to go have a drink with this guy I'm hanging out with," is totally appropriate, but so is "this guy I've been dating a little bit asked me to grab drinks." So ?
And why are there so many terms to choose from? Realistically, we're "spending time together after a few dates and thinking about finally smushing," but that doesn't seem as straightforward.
I usually end up saying I'm "seeing" someone, even if it's been six months and we go on extremely romantic dates — I'm just being sad girl about asking them to make it exclusive or leave me alone forever.
)Exclusivity is the new Zika. Nobody wants it.) Dating can mean anything from being in a committed, serious relationship to simply going on a handful of dates for a certain period of time. Hanging out is what tabloids say when they tell us whom Scott Disick has been spotted with, and hanging out is also something you can do with your friends that does not imply the least bit of sex at all. It would seem that "hanging out" is just a euphemism for "hooking up," and "dating" is just what we call "going on actual dates, whether seriously or not," but it can be hard to tell.
Here's how to know if you are dating someone, or just "hanging out": Do You Only See Each Other Late At Night? This is textbook old school dating. If it's been more than three dates out in public together, you've been dating this person, for whatever period of time that is. Remember that dating does not mean . Nowadays, we are such weirdos when it comes to labeling relationships, but if you're going on romantic little dates, especially if you aren't even sleeping over yet, you're dating.
Has Your Only Movie-Watching Been Via Netflix? You're hanging out. As strange as it is, if you're only watching movies from the comfort of your apartment or your boo thang's abode, you're just hanging. Going out to the movies wouldn't necessarily mean that they want to be with you forever, but it would suggest a certain effort reserved for more traditional "dating." Do You Usually Do Some Activity Together Before Sex?
Even if it's just a drink, you're dating. Again, I think having a thing that you do together other than just smashing your mouths together makes whatever you and your person are doing more than just "hooking up." Concerts, walks in the park, museums...
these are all signs of the millennially-dreaded "dating." Do You Have Conversations About Things Other Than Bodies And Sex?
You're dating. Even if you're just going on a handful of dates within a few weeks and then it ends, the dating part is in the conversation and getting to know one another. You're dating someone if you know where they grew up, their opinion on Trump, and maybe how close they are with their mom. No, you aren't in a relationship with them, but you are getting to know them and thus, dating.
Do You Only Text When You Plan On Seeing Each Other? You're hanging out. If your communication nets at zero when you aren't talking logistics for a night together, you're probably not all that interested in being romantic outside of the occasional spoon. There's nothing wrong with hanging out if that's what you feel like doing. It's great to have a "hang out buddy" in your city for lonely nights where all you want is some company (and maybe a warm body, too).
When you're dating, however casually, you're probably chatting away about your interests and how each others' days are going more regularly. Are You At All Romantic With Each Other? You're dating. Whether that's saying "you look beautiful," holding hands at the movies, or making an effort to make them a cup of coffee before they head to work, you're dating.
Again, one could do all of these things and not be very interested in you outside of sex, but it's not as likely. Dating means going a tiny bit further for someone than you would for someone you see as just a hook up.
Do You Know Each Others' Friends? You're dating. I would feel really weird if a friend brought a guy around my group of friends and then, when describing the night back to someone else, I said, "My friend brought the guy she's hanging out with to our group dinner the other night." No — they're dating.
Not exclusively, but I'd call that dating. If you know bae's friends — and not just their roomie from 7 a.m. run-ins at the bathroom — you're dating. Of course, you could know every last one of your naked friend's friends, go out to dinner regularly, and still just really be "hanging out." We can't give these labels too much importance, because at the end of the day, the only label that really gives a relationship parameters is whether or not you are "exclusive." It's interesting that "hanging out" seems to be defined by more physical interactions than emotional ones when we are referring to a partner, but when we talk about "hanging out" with a friend, mean a relationship that is entirely emotional and not physical at all.
It would seem that dating is the sweet spot in between these two kinds of "hanging out." Dating is when you find a person you'd like to be friends with and get physical with, even if you don't do those things exclusively together forever.
On that note, happy dating/hanging!
By: Match.com Relationships When a potential love interest proposes a get-together, sometimes, that person’s intentions can be tough to gauge. Is that invite for coffee a pretext for “I really want to get to know you better” or just a simple courtesy, as in: “I have a few minutes to grab coffee…want to join me?” It’s tricky, no?
We asked Washington, D.C.-based relationship expert Jennifer Bidwell and singles across the country for tips on how to determine your crush’s true intentions. That way, the next time you’re prepping for a date, you’ll know that you’re actually going on one instead of just “hanging out” with an opposite-sex friend. The verdict: Possibly a date, but not likely. According to Bidwell, when a guy wants to ask you out — unless he’s a stammering adolescent — he’ll most often ask you to join him for a specific activity, like having dinner or catching a movie on a certain date at a specific time.
“When a guy says, ‘Hey, how would you feel about grabbing dinner with me next Wednesday at 8 p.m.?’ it means he’s 100% asking you out on a date,” asserts Bidwell. “This kind of invitation requires some thought and planning, which is a clear indicator that it isn’t casual.” However, if he asks you that afternoon if you’d like to meet up later to go grab a bite, it’s more likely a casual invite to hang out because he sees you as a friend.
“While a last-minute invite could still be a date because it doesn’t indicate thought or planning on his part, it’s less likely that the invitation was made with ‘I’m taking her on a date to get to know her better’ intentions. Instead, it’s more of a ‘Well, I have some time in my schedule, and she’d be cool to hang out with, so let’s see,’” Bidwell explains.
Jason, a 32-year-old communications consultant in Spokane, WA, concurs: “When I ask a woman out spontaneously, it usually means that I think she’s cool and I’d like to hang out with her — but not necessarily because I’m thinking we might have relationship potential. It’s more about me thinking she’d be a fun time for that night.” The verdict: It’s definitely a date .
This one should be obvious, but as men can often come across as less-than-expert communicators while doing something innocuous (like ordering a burger from a member of the opposite sex), you may be hesitant to read his nervousness as a sign that he’s asking you out on a real date.
Fear not, says Bidwell: “Even the most confident guys feel a little nervous when asking out a woman they like; there’s no one on the planet who’s immune to the fear of rejection.” So if he beats around the bush, fiddles with his watch or says “um” a lot when he’s inviting you to dinner, you can be sure he’s not asking you to join him for a casual hang-out with his buddies. “I’ll never forget when my boyfriend asked me out on our first ‘real’ date,” says Karen, 24, an executive assistant from Kansas City, MO.
“ He could barely get the words out — which was so weird, because he was like Mr. Calm, Cool and Collected in every other aspect of his life! I didn’t think he was interested in me, but he was clearly so scared to ask me out that I knew immediately that he had feelings for me. If not, why would he have been so terrified to ask me to see a movie with him?” The verdict: It’s probably not a date. Unfortunately, “dude” has become part of our daily lexicon — even girlfriends use it when addressing each other in conversation.
However, a man who uses this seemingly innocent word offers a very important clue about his feelings for you, says Bidwell: “When a guy addresses you as ‘dude’ — especially when asking you out — it’s an indication that he thinks of you more as ‘one of the guys’ and less like a potential girlfriend,” she asserts. “It’s almost like a mini-Freudian slip, if you will.” Margot, a 30-year-old paralegal in Red Hook, NJ, recalls one guy who always called her “dude” that she had a crush on: “I never understood why Thom wasn’t asking me out on a real date — we hung out a lot after work with friends, and we’d grab drinks together all the time.
It seemed like he was into me because he always invited me to join him and his buddies,” she says. “It wasn’t until I realized that he called me and all of his other friends — both male and female — ‘dude.’ It was like a light bulb went on over my head; oh, that’s how he thinks of me — and the other women who were there too, obviously — as being just another one of the ‘dudes.’ After that, I realized it was never going to be what I wanted, so I moved on.” The verdict: It’s not a “real” date.
“At the risk of setting the Women’s Movement back decades, when a man is interested in you becoming more than just his friend, he will always pay the check on your first date,” Bidwell says. “A guy who’s trying to woo and impress you will want to seem chivalrous and manly.
Paying for your date is one way he can do that.” Conversely, a man who doesn’t reach for the check right away or immediately concedes when you suggest splitting it with him isn’t as interested in impressing you, which means he might not be into you in that way, says Bidwell.
“And usually,” she adds, “a guy who wants to split the tab is sending you a message that you’re not in this together.” Braden, a 28-year-old construction manager in Atlanta, GA, concurs: “There’s no way I’m letting a woman pay in the beginning — absolutely not! When it’s a casual thing between friends, I almost always split the check. Mainly it’s because I don’t want her to get the wrong impression, like that we’re on a date or that I want it to become something more or whatever.” The verdict: It’s a date.
As your years of dating may have already taught you by now, most men aren’t expert first-date conversationalists. However, if you find yourself out with someone who’s asking you lots of questions, chances are good that he’s trying to get to know you better because he really wants to assess you a potential partner, says Bidwell. “For most men, making small talk is painful,” she explains. “A guy who’s interested in discovering more about what you majored in at college, whether or not you like your job and your boss, why you chose to move to the city in which you currently live — all of those ‘getting to know you’ questions indicate that he truly wants to know the answers so he can understand the real you.” Jared, 29, an urban planner in Detroit, MI, says, “When I’m not into a woman, I don’t really care too much about hearing all the details of her life.
Sorry if that sounds callous, but it’s true. If it’s a woman I do like, though, I want to know as much as I can about her, and hearing all of those things isn’t annoying — it’s enjoyable. That’s how I can tell whether or not I really like someone.” When DC-based journalist Chelsea Kaplan isn’t helping you solve your relationship problems, she’s making jewelry.
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